Great stuff Stotty, I agree with all you've wrote about the issues here in the UK with retaining junior players, and the junior tournament structure. For me, the problem really is with the parents.
Nail on head right here from don_budge, this is the way we are going. How the hell is the kid going to learn and understand the incredible discipline, commitment, dedication, and sacrifice that is needed to become a high level tennis player, if the parents show them absolutely none of that in the way they act, behave and live their lives? Kids mimic their parents, that's what happens at a young age whether they like it or not.
The following are all true stories from this year, from tournaments I run at my venue (they are lower level Grade 5 events, but still attract players (or parents) with big ambitions in tennis.
1. Parent using repeated swear words in telling player all the things they did wrong after losing a match (the player was 9 yrs old).
2. Parent audibly calling the lines from outside the court, in an attempt to get their player to call 'out'. 2 instances of this happened recently, one of which saw the player actually say back to the Dad 'No Dad, that ball was in!' Poor kid
3. This one from last year, parent reducing player's opponent (U12's level) to tears by cheering their mistakes, and then when the opponent's Mum complained to that parent, the idiot parent's parting words were 'your son will never make it to Wimbledon'!
On the flip side, I've run many tournaments that have passed without incident, and refreshingly, I had one parent at a recent U10's team tennis match (his daughter had battled so well, but lost both singles and doubles in deciding tie-breaks to our players), make a point of coming up to me before leaving (and in front of his wife and daughter), and thanking me for our team's hospitality, and congratulating us on the win. His behavior from the sidelines was impeccable all day. I couldn't help but think his daughter might be an exceptionally good tennis player one day.
Nail on head right here from don_budge, this is the way we are going. How the hell is the kid going to learn and understand the incredible discipline, commitment, dedication, and sacrifice that is needed to become a high level tennis player, if the parents show them absolutely none of that in the way they act, behave and live their lives? Kids mimic their parents, that's what happens at a young age whether they like it or not.
The following are all true stories from this year, from tournaments I run at my venue (they are lower level Grade 5 events, but still attract players (or parents) with big ambitions in tennis.
1. Parent using repeated swear words in telling player all the things they did wrong after losing a match (the player was 9 yrs old).
2. Parent audibly calling the lines from outside the court, in an attempt to get their player to call 'out'. 2 instances of this happened recently, one of which saw the player actually say back to the Dad 'No Dad, that ball was in!' Poor kid
3. This one from last year, parent reducing player's opponent (U12's level) to tears by cheering their mistakes, and then when the opponent's Mum complained to that parent, the idiot parent's parting words were 'your son will never make it to Wimbledon'!
On the flip side, I've run many tournaments that have passed without incident, and refreshingly, I had one parent at a recent U10's team tennis match (his daughter had battled so well, but lost both singles and doubles in deciding tie-breaks to our players), make a point of coming up to me before leaving (and in front of his wife and daughter), and thanking me for our team's hospitality, and congratulating us on the win. His behavior from the sidelines was impeccable all day. I couldn't help but think his daughter might be an exceptionally good tennis player one day.

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